Using Positive Communication

Ever feel like you are struggling to effectively communicate?  Do you find yourself in the middle of escalated arguments with your partner wondering 'how did we get here’? Do you leave those encounters feeling hurt and unheard?

Let’s flip the script.

Here are some tips for navigating conflict within your relationship:
1) Present information from your point of view

I statements help you speak your truth and don’t feel like an attack to the listener.

How are you feeling? What action caused that feeling? What can your partner do in the future to prevent or acknowledge this feeling?

“I’m feeling concerned that arguments have become part of our normal communication patterns and in the future I’m expecting us to talk through issues as they arise rather than waiting util we can’t take it anymore to talk. “

2) Don’t blame your partner

Your partner wants to be in your corner- are you letting them? People are not problems but behaviors can be- have you put blame in the right place? Have you acknowledged anything you did that contributed to the issues?

Accountability is a door that swings both ways.

3) Listen for what your partner is saying and acknowledge what you hear before responding

Ask yourself- are you just waiting for a moment to say your points or are you really hearing what your partner is saying?